The Problem With Expectations

We all have expectations, don’t we? We see the world and all within it through our own unique lens and assume its universality. But, we do not all live in the same world. We are each a universe unto ourselves. This is where expectations become a problem. How often do you hear yourself say “this is how it should be?” Each day is filled with opportunity to project how we think ‘it should be’ upon countless situations, people, and events.
This is also where unhappiness gains a toehold. We go about each day with an unconscious list of how it should be and when we run into how it actually is; well, sadness, anger, irritation, the gamut of emotions erupt. Imagine living life with the immediate awareness that everything and everyone is just being the fullness of itself. No ulterior motives, just being true to its own nature. Life then becomes a play. All that walks on and off the stage can simply be observed with humor.
If we take away the sense of ‘shouldness,’ what we have left could be quite humorous. As Shakespeare said “all the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” There is comedy, tragedy, boredom, joy and a myriad of other possible human emotions. This is the gift we are born with, we are merely observers. How wonderful to spend our time on Planet Earth steeped in this awareness. Stop shoulding all over yourself!

2 thoughts on “The Problem With Expectations”

  1. Very true Jan and an interesting way of looking at life! I do believe in sense of humor, I tell my kids that all the time. Especially learn to laugh at yourself, never take yourself too seriously! Great read!

  2. Nicely said! In this crazy world of trying to keep up with the Joneses, we need to be reminded of how wonderful are own lives are if we would just take a moment to stop and smell the roses and stop shoulding! Thanks for the reminder Janet!

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